How To Let Go: A Simple 5 Step Process (Part 7)
Before I move on to sharing how to let go in 5 simple steps, if you haven´t had a chance to read the other articles in this series, here are the links for your convenience. You may want to take a minute to read them before moving on…
- On Learning To Let Go (Part 1)
- How To Let Go of Procrastination (Part 2)
- How To Let Go of Fear (Part 3)
- On Learning To Focus (Part 4)
- On Dealing With Change (Part 5)
So far in this series, I´ve focused on the benefits of learning to let go and tried to give you a feel for how it might work.
Of course, we both know this kind of thing doesn´t happen overnight. Learning how to let go is a gradual practice that happens over time.
So, how exactly do you learn to do it?
Well, it´s easiest to start with a process that you can break down into small, manageable steps; steps that you can practice, one by one, over time.
Step #1: Notice the Triggers
To begin with, look for triggers that point to you holding on to a thought, a feeling or a belief that is harmful to you. These triggers often take the form of anger or procrastination, for example. Recognizing these triggers as they happen is the first step in the process.
Step #2: Understand the Ideal
Once you´ve pinpointed a trigger, ask yourself what ideal you are holding on to that has set off that particular trigger.
Step #3: Recognize the Harm
Now be honest with yourself…is how is that ideal causing you to suffer? Is it harming your relationship? How is it keeping you from being happy in your life?
Step #4: Let Go with Love
Once you´ve determined that the ideal is causing your harm, the next step is to let go. Remember that letting go is an act of self-love and compassion – you deserve both.
Step #5: Embrace Reality
Once you´ve let go, focus on and embrace the situation as it really is. Accept it and respond to it without the burden and pain of past expectations.
Think of the process like this…
You learn a step, and then you practice it. You learn another and practice that. One by one, as you learn the steps and practice them, you begin pulling them together just like a dancer learning a new choreography.
That´s how you learn any new skill…and it´s the same with learning how to let go, as well.